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Being Fair

How many of us think that we have been treated unfairly at sometime or the other ? Do we also think if we have been fair in the process of judging or understanding the situation or issue ?

Unfortunately, there are many of us in the world. This has become a culture in fact. Looking at it deeper, I believe this came about because of the rampant mistrust among people. We live in a time where all kinds of people are on the loose in society. This I believe has spawned a shield around people that automatically goes off in the presence of individuals we dont know well. This in turn has created more misunderstandings and stirred fear in our hearts.

Now I wonder if the world will ever be healed of this fear and distrust that makes us judge others unfairly. It takes a lot of effort from us but it surely must be done if we want our society to thrive in peace and care which in turn can foster love. What I realized from my experience is that I have to heal myself too before I could confidently say not to be unfair to others. We have in us the spring that can overflow for others. The moment we take the first step to healing, we can take the next step to healing others.

if we start perceiving that things are equitable and then anticipate justice prevailing, all will be well ....check out Stephen Covey's 7 Habits if you have not read it and reread it ..... and one of the points there ... Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood ... you will develop a fairness habit ....

take care and live well ....

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