I thought it was best to start off the week with cause or causality (acknowledging that you probably are the source of what happens to you )- check out wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cause.
This is a very powerful word especially in times of distress and downturns when we would like to look for the cause of what happened and why it happened.
I have seen so many individuals in my coaching sessions and in my feedback sessions resorting to the easy way out - what I mean is - attributing failure to perform to the boss's approach, attributing things that dont go well on others on the team or on the weather ;=) or pretty much on anybody except themselves.
I have always believed that we are like mirrors - what we get is what we show in most cases. We need to make sure that we look at the cause from a holistic perspective - if my boss behaves odd with me , what have I done in return ? Have I been able to showcase committed and concerned behavioral traits OR have I been behaving oddly as well.
I had a conversation over the weekend with a good friend and she was telling me that they could not stand the boss talking in the meetings since he was talking about himself all the time - my thoughts go back to the cause all the time - have we been in any aspect instrumental in shaping the behaviors of the boss ?, have we provided him/her feedback on the same ? Have we shown interest in what is the message he/she is trying to convey ?
Lets make sure that we look at the "true" cause in terms of what we do and where we stand this week by acknowledging our contributions to the events that unfold in front of us.
Check out the book What got you here cannot get you there by marshall goldsmith - he covers some of this as well ... url : www. whatgotyouhere.com
have a good week ahead folks !!
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